By Amanda Olszewski, RN, BSN, IBCLC, RLC
The beginning weeks/months of having a newborn can be very difficult. There are so many new experiences that happen none of which are small. First delivery, first recovery, first baby, first time breastfeeding, first time caring for a newborn, first time sensing the responsibility, and many more. All these firsts can create a mixture of anxiety and bliss. So I often wonder with the long list of things to cope with and learn why do we sometimes fight so hard for normalcy to return? Life is not “normal” after a baby is born. Things are often not exactly how we like them. Our house is not as clean, the visitors are not always welcome along with the advice they bring, our spouses while good intentioned can really bother us, and sleep deprivation is now a fact of life. For me, it’s not the nature of these changes but our resistance to them that can create anxiety and suffering.
So I share a word with you that was shared with me during this time. This one simple word is the only thing that got under my skin and lightened my emotional load during these times…. SURRENDER.
Surrender to the sleep deprivation
Surrender to meeting the needs of your newborn (holding, rocking, feeding almost all the time)
Surrender to the dirty house and too many dishes
Surrender to the fact that you cannot be everything for everyone
Surrender to changes in plans and expectations
Embrace the change…